Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

          My Mother and I recently had a conversation regarding sex. It is through-out our world today in the media, billboards, magazines etc. The world would have you believe that sex is the key to a good marriage. My Mom said something interesting to me, she said that you need a foundation with someone. You need to trust them, respect them, forgive and serve one another. Sex is the icing on the cake for an already strong relationship. My Mom said that the reason her and my Dad are so strong in their marriage is because they were friends before they married, and they had the same foundation. Sex is just a part of the relationship, it doesn’t define the relationship.

            Infidelity is something that can happen within a marriage, the most common form (in my opinion) is the use of pornography. It is everywhere these days and so easily accessible that it’s easy for men and women to become addicted. My Dad made such an amazing comment when we were discussing the topic of pornography and he said, “I don’t know if you have noticed, but I never take my laptop into another room where someone isn’t present. It’s not because I have a problem with pornography, but because I don’t WANT to ever have that temptation.” I thought that was excellent advice and his own way of safeguarding himself and his relationship with my Mom.

            President Spencer W Kimball said: “The Bible celebrates sex and its proper use, presenting it as God-created, God-ordained, God-blessed. It makes plain that God himself implanted the physical magnetism between the sexes for two reasons: for the propagation of the human race, and for the expression of that kind of love between man and wife that makes for true oneness. His commandment to the first man and woman to be ‘one flesh’ was as important as his command to ‘be fruitful and multiply.”

     I have seen the importance of intimacy within marriage in my previous marriage, and also through mistakes that I made in my youth. Being divorced now I see the value in saving that sacred part of yourself within the bonds of marriage.

Source:

            Barlow, Brent. A. They Twain Shall Be One. https://www.lds.org/study/ensign/1986/09/they-twain-shall-be-one-thoughts-on-intimacy-in-marriage?lang=eng (Links to an external site.)Links to an external site.